Dude Looks Like a Lady!

So if you didn't read the last post, click here. That way you can catch up.

I got really extensive in that post, but I wanted to continue from there.

Don't worry, this post will still be here waiting for you.

Anyways, that earlier post was about feminism and men claiming that hitting on them isn't harassment, it's just "being approached by a stranger."

Gah.

My last comment was that I hate being treated like a woman.

I might get hate mail for that claiming I'm some dumb hypocrite.

Don't worry, son. I know hypocrites, and I'm about to explain away that claim.



"Men never hit women."

I remember this being told to me. I remember this being told to boys.

I loathed this.

Because, boys would use it as a victim card.

BAHAHAHA I'm not even kidding.

This was a victim card they used when faced with fighting me. Waaah.

I was upset because I'm not a pussy and I'm kinda prideful. I take after my dad in that sense. I may be a woman...but I have this weird mindset like I gotta prove something to somebody.

So when they pull this card out, I be like "fuck that, just hit me!"

"No you're a lady!"

I hate that word.

I HATE that word.

Llllllllady.


Like I'm some kinda fucking hoity toity misses who sits around drinking tea and eating crumpets and needs to be doted on.



So if you read my earlier post, then you're aware of my paranoia. Well...it kinda flies out the window when I'm faced with either somebody I know, or my true anger.

I'm not easy to anger, so I get paranoid more often than I strike out at people.

"SOCK A FUCKING BITCH!"



I remember having a heated debate about this with online youtube commenters.

(this goes back to DON'T COMMENT ON YOUTUBE)

And men kept saying "oh but men can go to jail.



And this is where I have to stop and laugh.


These men attacking feminists looking for equal rights want equal rights themselves but won't let women have those equal rights.

Allow me to elaborate before you send the hate mails.



A woman hits her man, man hits her back. Man goes to jail.

This is just as much sexism as a man just blatantly beating a woman for not being obedient.


Man hits his girlfriend, girlfriend hits him back. Man goes to jail.

We're all so sexist and fucked up in the heads that we've fucked things up for women by fucking things up for men!





What is being missed most of the time is the connection between men and feminism.

If women are to stay as they are, the man will keep going to jail regardless. HE'S the dangerous one.

But feminists are working towards progress. It's what our ancestors dreamed for us when they started this movement in the early 1900's. To be all treated as equal human beings.


Go ahead, keep playing the "women and men are biologically different, so your opinion doesn't matter, you're still inferior"



Yea, go tell that to every idiot I ever knocked on his ass cause he couldn't figure out how to knock me off my feet.

LOL the proud country girl in me is feeling boastful when I should really just settle down.

I won't lie, I've been beaten by a guy in a fight before. Does that mean I'm inferior?

NO!

Does beating him make him inferior?

NO!

Do I call the cops?

NO!

Because I picked a fight I know what's coming.



Now if they said, "I don't want to fight." That's a different story.

I back down.

When they play the "I don't hit girls" card, I want to kick their asses even more.

I imagine it's how guys feel when a girl hits them and then whines when he hits her back saying "You can't hit a girl!"

I'd wanna strangle her too.


Dumb bitch.



Where was I?

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Oh yea...



So a man has to be masculine and dominant to be a man...apparently...

But a woman has to be a crying victim of shame...apparently...

And if you step out of line there you're just a whiny little bitch...

Which is a lose lose for women because men say "stop being such a pussy victim" and when we call foul on people not letting us be more than victims they cry out "stop playing the victim card you cunt!"



Now that name lady...

It irritates me.

"Act like a lady."

Oh my gawd. I've had multiple men and women tell me "That's not lady like!"



I used to ignore it as just ignorant idiots.

It got so annoying and so repetitive that my response has become, "I'm sorry, do I know you? Then walk away."


I've gotten some flack for it because society wants me to act lady like.


Sorry, I'm a tom boy.

Sometimes, I wonder if I'm beyond tomboy.

I relate best in movies to the stereotypical lesbian or tomboy badass...not because she's bad ass, not because she's lesbian, not because she has something to prove, but because she has this attitude that she can accept help and offer it, but she doesn't necessarily need a man to offer it.

That's what I like about these characters. I dislike them for not being fully fleshed out.



I've always wondered what it would be like if I went and got alterations to make my feminine parts look a little more masculine.

(no I won't ever do this it's a thought process of "what if")

If I was assumed to be a man (which is easy considering my name is Christian) I would be treated like a man.

I prefer it that way.


I like hanging out with guys. I don't tend to share interests with girls often. Sometimes I do find something in common with girls. Being weird...a music genre...anime fandom...

But generally, I like hanging out with and having conversations with guys. It's not a gender preference so much as a preference of conversation type.

Considering I'm bisexual I don't mind the idea of talking about girls and how attractive they are either. (which tends to surprise them)


I don't enjoy a lulling conversation about make up, babies, whining about family, talking about boys, etc.


Sorry guys, I find women a little more attractive than you.


While lots of girls can share this common interest in mature conversation...I have a harder time talking about that with them than I do with guys. It's just the way they utilize their speech pattern.

This generalization is not fully true as I know lots of women who are fantastic to talk with and even make a conversation more fun that most people do. Because they are that outstanding.



But, now that I'm done trying to passify women who are offended...



I prefer being treated like a guy. When guys get used to me, I can get a better feel of being just one of the guys. I've had some groups treat me as if they were completely oblivious to my gender. Wearing baggy clothes most of the time helps too.

But there are always the groups who can never fully forget that I have a vagina.


I have had a taste a few times though...



As I mentioned before, I have the name of Christian.

While it is actually a gender mutual name, most Americans are under the assumption that it is a boy's name. It is most often used for boys. Probably for every one girl with that name there are 50 boys with that name.

So, when somebody reads the name they assume I am a male.

This means that general paperwork of mine gets favoritism with people who have never met me.

I've experienced this before.

And I remember the shock on a particular surveyor's face when I took back the test results of my survey.


back story: it was a study being done on something (it wasn't explained to us what) and it was done as a math test study...and since they were able to get the results they needed right after collecting the papers from us, they gave us back the tests with the grades on them...

Despite having many of the same answers as me, most of the girls in that same group were bumped down to a B- to C+ level of grades while mine was a low A.

This guy first reacted by snatching the paper back.

HE said "This isn't yours."

I said, "Yes it is, it has my name on it."

He said, "No this says Christian."

I chortled and said, "Yea, that's my name. Don't wear it out." Like the smart ass I would like to be.

Nearly-jaw-dropped stare as he watched me take the paper and return to my seat to read the results.

We later compared and found this result.

 Others tried to convince me to let it be...but at the time I was studying psychology and had learned that all factors are important in data. Theirs was a flawed one.

Granted, the test wasn't based on facts, but rather some opinions. They seemed to generate the right answers as what the popular media said was right. It was basically kind of like whether we thought like mainstream society or not. Or if we could at least guess what mainstream society thought.


I took the results of all of the papers I collected from the girls, a few from boys, took a couple of them with me, and met up with two of the girls from the study group.

I felt terrible when I saw their faces before breaking it to them. They looked sooo tired. This project was due in three days and they were so tired.


I couldn't let the concept of academics down though...so I explained what happened and showed the data.

At first they insisted there was no problem, but then seeing the girls' results verses the boys' results, they looked back at the results data.

Based on their data, all but one boy got an A...all of the girls were pretty much B to C level.

I was the one girl who got an A and when they looked at it they at first thought it was a boy.


I laughed and explained that that was how we figured this out. I being a woman having a name that sounds like a boy name have been presented with the honor of being a secret boy...thus my A.


It's hard to get mad at somebody like that, because all of the results were based off the way you wrote an opinion. And what it appears to be was that the guy read their names, saw they were females and read what they wrote as a female format. Thus maybe boring, maybe annoying, maybe obnoxious...


They thanked us and I later found out from the teacher that she would be giving them extra time to redo the study. She asked any of us who didn't already participate in the first study to help them out by participating in this rebooted study.

So of course I didn't...it would have been biased already. I never saw that guy again, but I find it hilarious that for a moment I was given the male bias.

For every time somebody reads my name, I am assumed a man, and thus treated like such.

Until they see my bewbs, then that name turns into "Kristin" "Christina" or "Christine"

I hate gender names too...